Recently I read a post on “failure” in one of my Blogger friend’s page. It triggered my thoughts to write something to create awareness on this topic. This post is all about how the young generation facing their failure and ending up their life instead of facing them with courage. There are increasing trend of suicide news in today’s World, people are taking this extreme decision because of the pressure this society put upon them and there is no proper guidance, moral support if they are not able to achieve.
Yes, the one to blame is our society which put lot of pressure on the next generation. It is an unwritten rule in our society that one has to pass out school with higher grade (Yes, everyone wants to become state first) at the age of 17 – 18, getting into premier Medical / Engineering institutes and coming out with colorful job(s) at the age of 22 – 24, getting married, having kids and settled down in life at the age of 27 - 29 to start pressurizing the next generation. If any of these tasks gets delayed our society will term it as “Failure”. Thus our kids are growing with “Fear of Failure” and they are not able to digest their set-backs. This attitude should get changed and we, the current generation should take this in other way around by guiding our kids, but let them decide their future and let them live their own life. This helps to build the self confidence to face any obstacles in life.
I would always say that “Expectation leads to disappointment and Desire brings you Success”. It may be contrary to our belief that “desire is the path to sin”, but desire for reasonable goals stimulates our energy and we unconsciously work towards the success. But, mere expectation will not bring you the success and it leads to depending others for our success. Also, if the expectation is not fulfilled we loosen our heart and we get ourselves into trouble.
In real World, there is no standard definition for “Success”, its all individual perception. It might be climbing Everest, landing in Moon, peaceful retirement, become a World famous scientist, becoming a pilot, enjoying life in country yard, getting University rank etc. But, if the society starts defining the success based on others’ achievement and inducting them on the next generation, the word “expectation” gets into place. In simple word, if a boy or girl wants to achieve the above goals it will be a “desire”, if their parents wants then it is termed as “expectation”. Now you can understand why “desire” gives result and “expectation” leads into tragedy (sometimes).