Thursday, 1 September 2016

How to behave with your Children?

In general, the characters of our Children not by birth, but it’s been built by environment where they are growing. They learn the habits from whom they are closely associated. As they spent more than 70% of the time with Parents, obviously they take them as role model and try to replicate what Parents do. Hence, it is very important for Parents to behave properly in front of their Children. They need to be very careful on the words they speak and the actions they perform.  There are certain DO's and DONT's Parents should aware during their Parenthood and act in more responsible way. This helps to lead a happy family and let Children grow in more positive environment. It is each one of the Parents responsibility to create a good environment for their Children to enjoy their childhood.

I’m busy – Your Children are not your office colleague to say ‘Im busy’ when they come to you for anything. They don’t understand however busy you are, simply they need your time. If you keep using this phrase often, it will hurt them and they start distancing themselves from you. If you are really busy, take couple of minutes, tell them that you have to finish certain task and will get back to them in sometime. This makes them feel that you are listening and supporting them. Try to avoid this word ‘Im busy’ as much as possible.

Never compare with other Children – There is a famous saying “The five fingers are not same”. Yes, each finger has unique purpose and value. Your children too have unique skills which you need to identify and make them excel. No point comparing them with other Children and make them feel degraded. Your Children could be good in studies or sports or playing music, it’s your responsibility to identify these interests and get them nurtured from early stage.

Listen to them – This is one of the clear miss from most of the Parents, I noticed. When the Child says something, just don’t nod your head just as a custom of hearing. Listen to your Children, they may need your guidance and support. There is a great difference between hearing and listening. If you truly listens them, they will be happy and they come close to you. You can see the bonding between you and your Children growing thick over a period of time.

Parents fighting in front of Children – This is strict no-no in front of your Children. If you do, it will develop more aggressive and adamant behaviour in them. If there are any differences between spouses, you both have to find some private space to discuss and sort out the issues. Parents have to show them happy in front of their Children. This makes them feel they are in safe and secure environment at home.

False commitments – This is again Parents should never do with their Children. If you are promising them anything, make sure you fulfil that promise. It will be good if you think twice before committing anything. For any reason, if you are not able to meet the promise, spend quality time with your Children and explain them the situation to make them understand. Initially, they may feel disappointed, but they will understand.

Never discourage, always encourage – Encouraging Children is always important, it is vital to develop self confidence in them. Parents have to keep feeding positive thoughts into their Children. They need to feel the positive wave if you are around. It really helps them when they face this competitive World when they grow up. The discouragement should be completely avoided, if they are trying to do something really impossible, against the nature, then you need to spend quality time to explain them to understand.

19 comments:

Beauty Unearthly said...

Really interesting post...thx for sharing! xx

JoJo said...

Boy did my parents make a ton of mistake. I don't recall any encouragement but a whole ton of criticism. As a result I'm a badly damaged 51 y/o who has terrible self esteem and never feels good enough.

Liz A. said...

Good points.

Theresa Mahoney said...

Encouragement and support are a must. Never make your kids feel unimportant.

Christine said...

Great advice!

eileeninmd said...

Hello, great post and information. I agree we should alwyas encourage our children. My son will be 24 in December and I am very proud of him. Happy Friday, have a happy weekend!

Breathtaking said...

Hello!:) This is sound advice for parents who are raising young children. Have a great weekend.:)

Elephant's Child said...

Some great tips here. And listening (and encouraging) shouldn't be limited to children. We need to listen to ALL the important people in our lives. And encourage them too.

Mary Kirkland said...

I love this and it's so true. I see it all the time with younger parents mostly. They'll say something and you can see it hurts the kid and they just don't care. If they don't want to take the time to raise their kids, then why do they keep having them.

klahanie said...

An excellent, informative post. This post resonates with me and no doubt, many others. Our environment has a most profound impact on children.

Thank you for this.

Gary

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

It's sad to see how some parents bring their children up ... so interesting thoughts you have here ...

Lowcarb team member said...

A very interesting post ... thanks for sharing

All the best Jan

sage said...

Good points here. I hated when my mom would compare me to my cousins or other kids in the neighborhood and when I was in my mid-20s, I took revenge by telling my mother just who first offered me pot--those who she had held up as ideal.

lina@happy family said...

Every parent should read this. Good advice.

Summer said...

Love these tips so much! You are so on point ♥

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Sherry Ellis said...

These are definitely good thoughts. As parents, we have to remember that our actions speak louder than words.

Kenneth Cole Schneider said...

Excellent advice!

Lux G. said...

I wish more parents and would-be parents could read this. So much wisdom!

Creations By Cindy said...

Great post today. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

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